There
is nothing to change here, please dont waste the effort trying.Contrasting thoughts
and ideas are oppotunities for thoughtful interchange.If what you see doesn’t
resonate,doesnt work for your or if it offends, there are other places more your style.
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We stand on the shoulders of our Teachers!
When
we can start where they leave off, learn from their mistakes, their choices what worked and didn’t work, our own progress
is so much faster, so much easier, so much more clearer then the path they had to travel.
This
website is dedicated to those teachers of my life,
the
gifts they brought to me and to
those
whose lives I touch in return
with
the greatest honor, respect and commitment
to
share those gifts in return when opportunity offers.
Be your own Work of Art ~ Learn, Dare, Grow ~
Techers come from Everywhere!
Welcome to my blog!
Thank you Sadie
for the beautiful art in this site!
This web-log is my online personal experience journal (as opposed to my professional journal to be found
at www.safetyparadigms.com by 12/06.
Why would you want to read this? Only if some of the topics, philosophies, lifestyles, choices and personal
priorities are of interest to you to explore similar or different lines of thinking with mutual respect.
If the reading thinking about small towns, Morris Massey, Robert Heinlein, New-age, Naturist, self help,
Rosicrucian, Shamanic, and Dog Whisperer current events, intrigue you in any way ~ read further here,
see if you want to hand around, book-link this site, participate in the blog or just move on to something more up your alley.
Stop, just stop. Let
the Dust Settle. See
what is there.
What is left. Where you are.
Intact? Shambles? Breathing? Surviving
until you die?
In a world where
we are measured by the amount of stuff we produce, residue we leave behind that lets other s know we were even there, encouragement
for "Time out" to reassess/recapitualte/re-value is NOT encouraged for we might make another choice that others will not:
Its been those times,
when I have told the universe with every mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, cell in my body that if I have to be alone,
I will not settle ever again.
Thank heavens for
Christaine Northrup's Wisdom of Menopause which was released just in time to help me understand how I am not a crazy woman
as I go though my transition time.
All my life I have
done for other people, put other people's need s first. Now - its MY turn.
And yet.
I am driven to find
ways to continue to share my hero's journey with others of like mind, those who want to stop contributing to the pollution
of our heart, minds, soul and spirit...and the problems of this planet.
That which is most important in my life ~
The gift of relationship and fullfillment of dreams!
To walk the road with those who know:
~ that the most difficult task of all is to clean ones
own house, which is a lifetime effort.
~who understand there are many ways up the mountain and if one selection does
not "grow corn" for that person's choice, then a simple change in choices are enough to keep moving on with other
travelers of greater like-mind:
~who do not need the devestations of hurricane, earthquakes, deaths,
or changes to understand that every moment is precious and each experience to be a gift savored and understood,
~ each teacher dark and light has helped us to be where we are today,
right now in this room and sometimes the dark teachers had more to give then the light.
I finally got around
to watching Commander in Chief. Wow! Talk about cut to the chase of how things are really done in Washington.
I sudden had a chilling insight of why this incredible show might not make it.
I would not be surprise
to learn that there were people in the right positions of government who did not like how blatantly things have been presented
and could be resolved on this program.
what is worse (for
me) is that the people who could make or break this program, the viewers really do not want to have insights as to how business
is done in Washington, It they accepted these fictionalized presentations as true representations of day to day
operations, they might actually have to try to do something about it.
I see the same analogy
with how some people react to Cesar Millan. I have a difficult time when I see a "dog trainer" putdown Cesar's techniques.
One of the people
on the list I moderate about the Dog whisperer made the comment which I intend to steal for all time - "I wonder how many
dog lives this disparager has save with HIS own techniques?.
In order to use
Cesar Millan's techniques and information successfully. The owner has to start by looking hard at what patterns and
behaviors the owner is doing to evoke, sustain or encourage the unwanted behavior. Most people would rather go to a
dog trainer who will fix the dog and the problem.
Ironically, I will
bet that that is what they do for their health - go to have the doctor "fix them" instead of taking responsibility and personal
authority to change their behavior, Lifestyle and choices which contributed to getting them in this "unhealthy" situation
in the first place. You see this in counseling when couples go so the Counselor can "fix" the partner.
To walk in the Cesar
way means that one has to look unflinchingly into the mirror of the stories, guilt, blame and shame that owners carry to excuse
and justify why it is the DOG who is the problem and not the owner or the family.It takes, someone who wants to make deep cellular and long lasting changes in patterns and lifestyles.My experience has shown that most people prefer to stay where they are because it is easy and it works
for them. That probably isnt includ anyone interested in reading this site either.
Easter's Lesson Death Brings Change Brings Rebirth - Boundries
Today is a day special to my traditional Lutheran upbringing.
The Easter rebirth of the Christ. Reincarnation to the next level of existence.
Today, television is full of historical ideas of what really
happened. I am reminded of a discussion I had 25 years ago at a dinner hosted by the boss who classified himself a born-gain
Christian. What is remembered was when I asked him, "what if it was not true? What IF it was a discovered
to be a fraud that Jesus died on the cross and was reborn, that he was just one of the most skilled magicians ever?"
His face went white, he said," well, I couldn’t be a Christian
anymore, my faith would be shattered."
During the exploration of life in my 20's when I chose to step
outside the box and look at other religious organizations. The experiences, discussions and interactions lead me to
the discernment between religion and spirituality.
Religion, I found was filled with dogma, rules and laws which
seemed to be designed to control and direct the people...Spiritual leaders many times, being granted the right to ignore the
rules set for members for what ever reason.
Spirituality, I found was the way you lived your life in connection
and awareness to everything. That awareness included the response-ability for choices and how they impacted others,
life or the environment...and personal authority. To me it is a frightening condition, one I desire to be far aware
from , when people cannot move or take actions (or do move and take action) because their pastor, faith leader,` whatever
person of authority, directs them to do.
The difference between this fellow who was so dependant on the
outside authority dictating how his life should be lived and why, ~and mine ~
For me it doesn’t matter what was/is true or not true from sources
like the Bible. The sources are written by hu-mans with their own agendas, values, ethics and versions of history not
all of which match mine (or necessarily, the truth).
I adhere to the principles found with-in, not the dogma espoused.
Therefore my Lutheran upbringing is not in conflict with my new age philosophies, lifestyle, attitudes, or the Rosicrucian
(AMORC) scientific teachings, or the Shamanic ceremonies, symbolism or lifestyle I have embraced
When undergoing my studies on the Shamanic path, the leader I
was learning from said, quite plainly - "if you give away your personal power to me, I will take it until you don't".
One way you can get a fast pulse check on: Boundaries by Henry
Cloud from you could get it from Amazon or Barnes and Noble and the workbook with it. From their website direct
at: http://store.cloudtownsendstore.com/index.html (also check out the workbook that goes with in
"Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, addresses specific issues that confront today's Christians.
Issues such as:
Living a life out of control
Having people take advantage of us
Having trouble saying no
Being disappointed with God because of unanswered prayers
and Many more vital issues
A boundary is a personal property
line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words,
boundaries define who we are and who we are not.
They impact all areas of our
lives:
Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances.
Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions.
Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from
the harmful, manipulative emotions of others.
Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and
give us renewed awe for our Creator.
Having clear boundaries is essential
to a healthy, balanced lifestyle, isn't it? Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they
forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries they ask:
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legitimate boundaries?
What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
Aren't boundaries selfish?
Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
I will
never forget the phone call from my Dad, the hopelessness and bewilderment in his voice when he said to me that he didn’t
know what else to do, that the house was mortgaged to the hilt, all loans taken and gone every resource tapped – and he could
not take Mom to the County hospital, could not get any government assistance because they “owned” a house. (A house with Zero equity left!).
He
said that he had done everything he was supposed to – paid his taxes, bought insurance, served his county but nothing was
there for him and his chronically ill wife.
I will
never forget a few years later, watching my Mom close her check book, saying – “this is it, we have tapped out the last of
our insurance”, (they paid $800/month above what the insurance paid for her medications, just to keep her alive) and I don’t
know what I am going to do to survive without it.She died 8 weeks later.
Fortunately I came across a book called The New Health Insurance Solution: How to Get Cheaper, Better Coverage Without a Traditional Employer Plan -- by Paul Zane Pilzer which allowed me to set up my insurance that will allow meat an incredibly inexpensive monthly cost, to go to my alternative
medicine for lifestyle medical support, (and is tax deductable), payments are
tax deductible, which will pay 100% after my deductible up to a 5 million dollar cap.(Most traditional insurances have much
lower caps).
I will never be dependant on an employer or relationship for health care support again! (NO commercial
Interest)
If
you know Morris Massey, you know that we value imprint between the ages of 10-12 on the realities we live in at that time.
As a child of the Cuban Missile Crisis, the knowledge that tomorrow will never
come is almost cellular, is it is for so many other Baby –boomers.
We
see how companies like Enron dup investors and retirees with complete indifference (to this day) of the devastation their
choices wrought. Unions continue to fight a losing battle to keep workers enslaved
with promises of an increasingly fading life, rather then honoring their responsibility to warn their workers that times are
changing and to find new work, new employment.
I have
never trusted the government or any other authority such as an employer keeping their commitments.Rising costs of retaining employees on every level, encourage age discrimination, outsourcing and other
cost cutting efforts just to be able to stay in the game and compete.
Yet,
as a sole proprietor, I see enough employee sabotage, customer dis-service, and entitlements to not being willing to walk
down that road, preferring to rely instead on contractors, who understand without delivery, the Corporation will simply go
elsewhere.
One
can see the other side of the coin, that without the pressure of Wal-mart on its suppliers to modernize, and economize, that
those companies would be out of business, unable to compete anymore.
ILLEGAL
Immigration drains resources from those who follow the law.
These
people’s efforts and actions would not be legal within their own country, much less here in the US.
Today
I had a personal experience of the lawlessness of these people. Last night, after
YEARS of waving a lighted American Flag in my front yard, someone came by and pulled the flagpole out of the ground and cut
the line to steal my two flags. The fact that it was done hours before this walk
supporting ILLEGAL immigration is not to be ignored since their pretense is to “support the USA”, those avoiding the kind
of knee jerk reaction trigger on the level of a 9/11 event by Legal Citizens. (And
Gee – it worked!)
No
one was arrested – not for stealing my flag, not for breaking the law by being in this country. All the police here, all the fire departments, were placed along the parade route in support of breaking
the law.
I am
grateful for the support of my two Hispanic neighbor families, one African American family and the gay couple down the road,
for bringing their flags out to support me and protest what is happening. We
stand together in spite of the authorities who turn a blind eye because it is the easy thing to do!
I am a person who cares too deeply. At 52 years there is a deep
part of me that I have never been able to exocise or control well. It is tied to my inner empath. The intuition that
has served so well all these years. There are many others who have this skill without the emotionality that seems to
run through my core of skill. The best I have been able to do with years of personal work is to rechannel this emotionality
into e-motion (energy in motion).
Cesar Millan talks about how animals are mirrors for their owners and their (human)
relationships. He also talks about the importance of setting rules, boundries, limitations. Fortunately, Henry Cloud's
book on Boundries had laid a wonderful foundation for that concept for me already.
Changing lanes isnt easy. People dont like when these pieces are put in
place. In todays disposable society, it is easier just to find others to manipulate, bully and control rather then change
and engage in relationship with others from win win and mutual benefit and welfare.
Thank heaven that my parents laid the foundation of learning how to be comforable
in my own skin, and my own best friend. it is so much easier to let those people and things which are not in alignment
with my choices, priorities and decisions to go their own way, then to fight for understanding acceptance and support.
